Attempt to not limp-wrist. Have a good high grip on it, choke the top of the grip. The slide mechanism of the guns should nearly dig in if not dig into your hand.
If it still doesn't work then get it looked
I have seen males who loaded bullets thr erong way, kept trying to shoot after they ran out, load ir backwards, put ACH in backwards.
It isn't just a gender thing, it's a stupid people thing