Jessica Atreides
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I'll be honest with you: I think a cry for help is the actual topic of this thread, whether you intended it to be or not.Okay, can we get back to thread topic
There are a couple overlapping elements at play from what I am seeing:
- An existing psychological condition you are experiencing. I'm not qualified to diagnose someone (and if I was I wouldn't because it would naturally be against professional ethics to do so without you as a patient), but you show a number of flags that definitely seem to indicate a personality disorder. That's not a value judgement, before you take that the wrong way.
- I would wager your dad has something going on as well that's making him go in the direction he's choosing with this.
- Your dad's unhealthy coping mechanisms. He's clearly violating your boundaries and making you extremely uncomfortable. He's definitely not on any reasonable road to recovery from what happened and he's dragging you down with him. It's about the worst way I could imagine to deal with what happened.
- Your co-dependent relationship with your family.
Professional help would be the best for everyone but at minimum your father needs some counseling for the trauma he's experiencing.